Lay down the palm of your heart and lay down your palm

&ldquo, tiger mother &rdquo, &ldquo, wolf dad &rdquo, type &ldquo, strict education &rdquo, as a traditional Chinese education hype, in addition to the discredit of traditional Chinese education, there is no positive contribution to social progress.



The day before, in the NPC and CPPCC, National People's Congress Zheng Xuejun recommended practices from abroad, in the domestic promotion “ no &rdquo, called &ldquo, slap;; tiger mother, ” “ wolf dad ” change the educational idea, don't spank a child.



I agree to the proposal, but there are doubts: even put the slap, ridicule, sarcasm and other means to punish or humiliate the child, still can have a serious impact on the child's mind. Parents put down their hands, easy to lay down the palm of the heart.



Pedagogy and psychology have been very mature for &ldquo, &rdquo education. It is not only an educational factor but also a great destructive force. But today, the public is still unaware of its destructiveness. In our familiar educational discourse, people are particularly willing to talk about rules and talk about punishment. Which adolescent has problems, often attributed to parents' lax discipline; on the contrary, which adolescent grew better, especially in some aspect, they often attributed to the strict treatment of parents and teachers.



This is very simple and shallow, but the more simple and shallow things, the easier it is to be accepted by some people. Then, a “ or to play, or jump from ” the threat can let the children become a pianist, a child called “ waste ” the insult can force their children to enter Harvard University … … the best behavior is most likely to be spread and so on. Most of the time, people don't even bother to think deeply about it: if &ldquo, to educate &rdquo severely, can really make a child good, wouldn't the world be a good man?



A poppy will not produce a cherry. Often blame the children, learn hard; children are often beaten, learn to hate … … “ &rdquo example is better than precept; truth is the conclusion, a time and countless events verified “ severe &rdquo education; itself is a kind of demonstration, if adults to children often criticism and abuse, how to cultivate children's self-confidence and calm?



At present, there is no connection between learning and life in many industries, especially in the field of children's education. Science and technology have entered the twenty-first Century, and many people's education consciousness has stayed in the brute time. Supporters of the club education is apt to get &ldquo &rdquo Chinese; traditional education; that is, the fact that &ldquo fight it; ” such argument, but is a vulgar idea spread in folk. From ancient times to the present, no sage in Chinese history has said that children should play. On the contrary, China traditional culture is about “ &rdquo it, as good as water; “ Pro had made more, Jian, Yi my color, my voice soft ”.



In recent years, there is always someone to “ &rdquo, “ the tiger mother; the wolf dad type ” “ &rdquo China as strict education; traditional education to speculation, in addition to discredit Chinese traditional education, a small part of the pit confused parents outside hurt some of the children, there is no positive contribution to social progress. Many the play to effect the so-called education experts, scholars, teachers, professional knowledge and wisdom can not be opened, although in the oral also advocated respect for &rdquo and “ “ ” equality; but, in their logic, children's ignorance, rash, no rules, decent, orderly adults therefore, correct, adults have a duty to help children build rules, and bring them in the nature of faults and eliminate errors of &mdash in the bud; — this understanding already contains a serious inequality. When they really face the children, it is almost impossible to respect as the premise, but only a high level of control psychology.



Fundamentally speaking, the so-called &ldquo &rdquo, but the strict education;; adult character fig leaf. &ldquo can not be put down; the serious education of ” the real reason is that the subconscious can not put out the inexplicable hatred. This is why people who have experienced and scolding from an early age are often the supporters of a stick. A philosopher said that “ hypocrisy and brutality always accompany ” This sentence is worth reflecting on all the advocates of rough education.



Life is all things, the proper means can produce good results, and education is more so. No child is a &mdash and &mdash that needs to be beaten and scolding. Only when parents have such confidence in their children can they put their hands in the palm and then let go of their hands. (the author of Yin Jianli is a famous educational writer)